Recovery … What is it all about?
Recovery, from working with people and having a number of lived experiences I see it differently to how I once did. I have now come to believe that for most of our adult lives, many of us are recovering from something.
Many people I work with identify as in recovery from ..
- Addictions such as substance abuse
- Mental health issues
- Family dynamics
- Intimacy issues
- Body hate
- Emotional eating
- Control issues
What is pain driven referring to?
Pain driven doesn’t mean we all have a big trauma you can link the “recovery” back to, often many people in recovery have average experiences and what we call small “T’s” which are minor traumas that add up and shape the way we see and manage the world. Obviously some people have very traumatic pasts also and this contributes to their recovering practice.
However too often I hear people say “I had a good childhood though” and feel this means there couldn’t possibly be any pain in their past. Which of course isn’t true, as human beings we have 100’s of experiences daily and they can’t all be healthy!
It doesn’t have to make sense or be logical, if we feel like we are not authentic and empowered on a daily basis, without relying on something in an unhealthy way then recovery is for us. If we don’t feel comfortable within ourselves, then recovery is for us in some format.
Types of recovery
I have seen recovery from a number of different perspectives within my professional and personal life. There are many variations and methods that can be used to facilitate recovery. There is not only “one” way and their is rarely only one “right” way.
What recovery is to someone today may be different tomorrow, as we grow and evolve so should our supports. Always meeting our needs as they arise and working the programs we sign up to, rather than just attending them. (there is a difference)
Who is recovery for?
I have yet to meet someone from a social economic or educational background or hold a social or career status that protected them from the need for recovery. I think this is important as often we have a set of beliefs about who we are or who others are that stops us relating to ourselves and others in a real way. This can slow down the insight required to engage recovery.
We also have pre-conceptions based on our own experience of what recovery is and who needs it! This can often limit us! I say this from my own experience both professionally and personally. Recovery is unique to each individual that seeks it!
Regardless of the type of recovering you are participating in, once our day becomes manageable, we need to learn to move our recovery towards fulfilled living.
That is what I consider recovering to be, not just getting passed the traumatic pain or compulsion to use/eat/relate but moving into living in a fulfilled way. One that is honest about our needs and our responsibility to others!
Using coaching psychology I work with people to help them regain a sense of self, hope and vision. One that is as unique as they are, one that brings compassion and appreciation to every part of the journey. One that embodies recovery as a way to live rather than a concept to understand.
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